Ages 10-14: Communication

Young teens sitting together in libraryCommunication Changes and Challenges

The tween and early teen years can be difficult in terms of communication—you’ll have arguments, you’ll get the silent treatment, and then you’ll be your child’s best friend. Try to be patient and understanding; it’s not easy for your child, either!

Your young teen may seem angry, moody, or uninterested in talking, but she still needs as much support from you as when she was younger.

Look for chances to talk: at meals, driving in the car, waiting in a line. Show that you understand what she is feeling by sharing similar experiences you may have had at the same age. Tell her you’re always available to listen and help work through things. Introduce her to caring, responsible adults who can be there for her, too.

Setting some time aside to talk is one of the most important things you can do to start building positive communication practices.

A New Phase for Talking Together

The ways we listen and communicate are critical parts of your changing relationship with your young teen. Take the quizzes on expressing care and challenging growth to explore new ways you might communicate as your child grows up.